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A Special Man's Massage
Are there any secret spots to please men?
By Sandor Gardos, PhD
WebMD Answers to Questions
It's nice that you're looking for ways to please your partner. I hope he's doing the same for you!
What you're probably referring to is massage of the prostate, a gland inside the male body. The prostate gland produces about 35% of the fluid contained in ejaculated semen. Many men do get great pleasure from having this area stimulated -- often to the point of explosive orgasm.
On the other hand, some men find it very uncomfortable to be touched in this area. They may have had unpleasant experiences with prostate exams at a doctor's office. But for many men, in a romantic context with the right partner, the experience is great.
You can massage your partner's prostate directly or indirectly. The most effective method is to massage it directly, which means inserting your fingers into his body. Lubricate one or two fingers, and as your partner relaxes, insert them gently into his anus. Go very slowly, and let him decide how fast and how deep you go. Once your fingers are inside, curl them forward towards his penis, and make a "come hither" motion against an object that you will feel pressing against the rectum. Ask him how it feels. If it's not feeling good, stop and move on to something else.
A word of warning, though. If your fingernails are not closely trimmed, wear a latex glove and be doubly slow and careful as you enter. If you're careless, an unprotected fingernail might cause a small cut in the tissues inside the anus. While such cuts are rarely dangerous, they can sting for a day or two. You can buy latex gloves -- the thin, transparent kind often used by health workers -- inexpensively at most drug stores.
With the indirect method, all touching takes place outside the body. This gives a less intense sensation, but some men prefer it. If you press up behind your partner's testicles (toward the anus) you'll notice that the penis actually extends a couple of inches inside the body. It's above this inner part of the penis that the prostate resides. During your next sexual encounter, press up here and move the penis around slightly to stimulate the prostate. Or you can press up in the area between the genitals and the anus -- the perineum. Both methods lead to external stimulation of the prostate.
Whichever technique you use, keep communicating with your partner. Some men can have an orgasm from prostate massage alone, while others like additional direct genital stimulation. You may find that prostate massage is not all that you and he had hoped it would be. Luckily, there are about a hundred other places on a man's body for you to explore.
1999 WebMD.
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